Let’s call her S. She was a new addition to the department. My initial impression of her? Cold, serious, elegant and fairly quiet. I also recall her sighing every once in a while. Like something was constantly tiring her out. I wouldn’t quite describe her as pretty but she had clean features with a defined face. I’d say she was relatively cool and elegant. Still attractive but in another way.
It’s now a nice couple of months down the track and we are very good friends. Coffee buddies, shopping buddies, dinner buddies etc! There’s also plenty of SMS-ing going on about random things.
Oh! Guess what I saw?… OMG I just bought a pair of heels!!… This dinner is really boring. I wish I could go…
We always have a lot of fun and constantly end up giggling to no end. Then one day, something happened that made me think twice about our friendship.
I was at dinner with other friends and was replying to her SMS (which was probably my 4th SMS by now since we left work about 2 or 3 hrs ago) when my friend teases me as to who I’m texting and tries to look. Without thinking, I slammed my phone shut immediately. Even my own reaction caught myself by surprise! That obviously caused a few raised brows and I tried to explain that it was just a friend. I basically sounded very suspicious. I’m sure I had a look of awkwardness on my face. The strange thing about my response was that my friend knows this girl! I could have easily said, “It’s S”. Hmm…but why didn’t I say that?
A few points describing us:
- From the moment I leave work, I feel like sending her a SMS.
- After sending an SMS, I will eye on the phone regularly in hope of a reply soon.
- I look forward to work because I will get to see her – to the extent that I still want to go to work if I was sick.
- If I had the choice, I would want to see her all the time.
- I’d choose time with her over anyone else.
Is the above normal? I used to think it was until incidents of my last friendship like this were found in the story line of Girl Friends. Maybe it’s not?
So my question to you is:
Is she just a very good friend or is there something more?
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March 20, 2009 at 12:48 am
Kitsune
Based on what you describe, I think there might be something more :) Take your time, but, perhaps, you could tell her about your feelings one day :)
March 20, 2009 at 12:56 am
Sleepy
Hmm…I’m afraid she’s already in a relationship.
March 20, 2009 at 12:59 am
Kitsune
That’s too bad :(
Well, at least you can remain good friends, right?
March 20, 2009 at 1:21 am
Sleepy
I don’t have plans to take anything further. I think it’s already great to be able to come across someone that you can get along with so well and have so much fun with! I don’t think I would ever risk such an amazing friendship. Crossing paths with a person like this is priceless.
hehe sounds like a mastercard ad!? But I am serious. I value this friendship immensely.
March 20, 2009 at 1:23 am
T-kun
Hey, im using my ph0ne n0w but i think youre just attached to her. Thats n0rmal with friends so n0 w0rries. Youre all girls anyway s0 theres n0thing gross… Mind sharing a pic of hers t0 us?
March 20, 2009 at 1:24 am
Jo
There are two things one might say here.
The first is a very cynical comment. Even if it was a dog the person/whatever you were spending so much time with you would grow attached and dependent.
The second is an even more cynical question. Do you see yourself in a bed with her? If you answer this truthfully to yourself then you know what you want.
March 20, 2009 at 1:25 am
T-kun
Gee, this is like the 0nes in mangas. L0l.
March 20, 2009 at 1:28 am
T-kun
Give it several m0nths and that thing u feel n0w will die d0wn. Ull eventually grow tired of her the m0re you interact.
March 20, 2009 at 1:34 am
T-kun
I felt the same towards a girl in my german class… It eventually died when she turned d0wn my offer f0r a date after our exams.. Last time i saw her was may last year… M0stly 4g0tten n0w.
March 20, 2009 at 1:45 am
Sleepy
First, to answer T-kun’s request for a picture – a flat NO! LOL As for my attachment dying down? My last friendship of this nature lasted 4 years…hmm…
As for Jo’s comment – that is very cynical indeed!! But I’m not dependent. I just enjoy her company. Finally no, I do not see myself acting intimately with her – at least not the way you described it. She grabbed my hands the other day in excitement and I almost froze…I just didn’t know how to react.
To be honest, I think I see it as a rare friendship – very strong bonds (at least from my side) but falling short of anything beyond friends.
THanks for all your comments. It’s been bothering me for a while. It’s good to get some objective opinions.
March 20, 2009 at 2:36 am
T-kun
Lasted? Why did it end?
March 20, 2009 at 4:29 am
ikon
While reading about this, i can’t help but smile. It reminds me of someone. I too think there might be something more. If you are fine with how it is now, then my advice is just go on like this. If there’s really is sth more then you’ll come to know somehow,i guess. You are lucky to have that kind of relationship :D
March 20, 2009 at 5:07 am
Jo
Sorry for the bit of crudeness back there. Its just that sometimes you just have to strip things naked to get out from a dilemma, or something of that particular genre. If you can’t see her as a partner then be her friend. And next time she grabs your hand, squeeze back. You’ll make her smile :)
Nice blog btw! I intend to visit often now that I found it!
March 20, 2009 at 7:42 am
Person A
I personally think that’s normal, I have someone like that too, although we don’t text that much… But I guess that’s also because I am sharing the same apartment with this person. I mean if this person suddenly grabs me, I’d probably froze too. You’re fine! Perfectly normal!
March 20, 2009 at 8:07 am
Tessa
Drama! wow, I missed all this while I was out! But, I think you can have a really close friendship without wanting “more” (i’ve always disliked putting a close friendship as less than a romantic one). And well, it sounds like it goes both ways right? Sooo I’m sure you can be attached with somebody without wanting a romantic involvement. As for the phone thing, obviously all that I said above is out the window and you want to jump her bones! (Kidding) You said they were kinda teasing you about it. People tend to respond to teasing defensively, might just been that.
March 20, 2009 at 8:18 am
Sleepy
Thanks for everyone’s views – I really do appreciate that you’ve spent a few minutes to comment!
T-kun, she got a boyfriend. Although there was a slight fall-out (GIRL FRIENDS!?!), we are now best mates again. Not 100% like before but almost.
ikon!! Reminds you of someone? That must be so nice! If you have/had a relationship like this, you must know what I’m going on about! I’m honestly ecstatic about this! Yes I see myself as very lucky. I thought having happened once was already enough to go crazy about but to unexpectedly meet another person like this?!?!! I’m I’m…LOST FOR WORDS!!!!! ahahaha I like the squeeze back idea!!! I’ll do that next time it comes up! haha THanks for dropping by guys!!
March 20, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Alucard
hmm just act normall maybe in the future something’s gonna happen. who knows ;) or maybe she’s just your precious friend nothing more? i have a friends with who i want to be all the time and i don’t think that i have another feeling than just ‘like’ her
March 20, 2009 at 8:52 pm
Sleepy
You’re right guys. There’s probably potentially something more but I’m more than happy to keep the way things are. It makes me warm and fuzzy inside for there to be someone that I like so much!!! hahahaha
She’s just my precious close friend!! THe number of things we have in common are shocking!!! ^_______^ You guys have been great!!!!
March 20, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Sleepy
OH and lem!! THanks for the advice and support but I think I’ll keep things as is!! A friend like this is a rare find!! I’m satisfied enough. =)
March 21, 2009 at 2:33 am
Sleepy
I must say that I miss her company when she’s not around… =( I need to wait for a few more days…*sigh*
March 21, 2009 at 4:45 am
Lem
i only said act on it IF IF IF you feel its something more <,< if you like things the way they are then keep it that way and make it last for always – lovers come and go but friendships last for a looong time
March 21, 2009 at 9:43 am
Sleepy
We’ll stay as friends. There really can’t be anything more. Thanks Lem!
March 21, 2009 at 10:45 am
Akira
Everyone’s already given such good advice. T_T XD Haha, anyways, I’d love to say something really wise, but I don’t see myself being able to, so I’ll just voice my opinions. First, I’d like to say; since you like it being this way for now, just keep it this way. If there’s really something going on, like others have said, it’ll slowly unravel itself. Though…. her boyfriend would then be a problem. BUT! Since you like it just as friends, and you strongly think there’s nothing more to it, then I’d advise you to stop worrying. Unless… *grins* Well, that’s just me. I had something happen to me like that… recently? Well, I’d just like to keep it the way it is for now too. So, just quit worrying. =_= *furrows brow*
(Just my opinion.)
-Akira
March 21, 2009 at 12:55 pm
Sleepy
Yeah Akira – I agree with your approach. I can’t say for 100% that I don’t want something more (>_<) but my rational mind tells me to keep things as they are. She seems to have a wonderful boyfriend. I would hate to do anything to hurt their relationship. I’m already very lucky to find someone that I can connect to in this way.
Ooh!! Akira! Something similar is happening to you?? Do u mind sharing a bit of the details with us??!? :)
Thanks for ur advice!!!
April 17, 2009 at 8:29 pm
Hynavian
Here’s my super late comment from browsing all the posts.
So how’s everything progressing now? :P
It’s great to have a buddy whom you can shop, hang out with and chat daily. I’d hang on to such friends if I have them! However, it must be noted that some ladies are rather “clingy” as in they stick to you physical like grabbing your arm, hugging you, etc but that is just a form of friendship expression to them.
More importantly if you can’t image yourself implanting a kiss or doing anything further, then you both are just best-est best friends…keep the friendship as it is. (^_^)v
April 17, 2009 at 11:26 pm
Sleepy
Hi Hynavian! Posting twice in one go?! I think this is your first batch of comments here!!! Welcome welcome!! Thanks for dropping by. Actually it’s interesting timing as I was thinking whether I should write an update. =)
She’s been going through a rough patch so I’ve been talking to her a lot etc. Trying to give her support. You’re right. We continue to be the BESTEST of friends. I can’t imagine taking it further (not that I really want to…too scared/uncertain myself). I just hope that we can stay like this forever.
Btw, I just checked out your blog!! Looks pretty interesting! I think I will be visiting regularly! I noticed a lot of familiar manga/anime names!! hehe YURI ones…ahahaha
April 20, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Onyx Crescent
Well….. then, continue being BESTEST of friends. It’s an awesome kind of relationship to have. Although I only “had” one. =_= Well, enuff of me. Back to you!
So, anyways, give us some regular updates about “S”…. (Major updates please…, stuff like, OMG!!! I drank mocha with her today! is … unnecessary…. unless it is something she hates. Actually never mind me.)
REGULAR UPDATES PLEASE!! If I don’t get a pic, I can have info right???? It’s not like, I’ll go meet this “S” out of nowhere. I’m not even sure she’d even take me seriously. (I’ll tell you why later…)
Anyways… UPDATE!,
Akira
April 21, 2009 at 12:19 am
Sleepy
Hey Akira!! I’m actually in the process of starting another blog just to talk about S but it’s still in its early stages. I’m still sussing out how the blog will work but I’ll probably ask for suggestions/views later on. The website will be called ‘Just her & me’. =) Isn’t it a sweet name??? hahaha
I almost choked when I saw ur bit about a mocha!? One of my little updates does involve a coffee!! AHAHAHA And NO! You will definitely not see a pic!! LOL
Not take u seriously? Pls explain!!? hahahaha
Thanks for dropping by! I’ll post an update soon! (maybe! hehe)
April 21, 2009 at 3:05 am
Onyx Crescent
In the process, eh? I’ll look forward to it! ‘Just her & me’?? That’s cuuute~~ xD, this is going to make me go look for some good yuri anime soon… but I can’t, since I’m in school now. =_= I’m not even eating lunch. Anyways, (I’m so off track right now…) I’ll REALLY look forward to it now!
Well, every love story starts or (in the middle) has a cup of coffee or something involving Starbucks. xD Believe me. It’s cliché, but cute. lol….
Actually, I’m not sure what to expect if I just said “hi” to this “S” of yours. Why??? Because…. I’m not sure people will take a 13 year old very seriously. Yes, I’m 13. Actually, to be honest, I just turned 13 on the 16th of April. And actually, right now I’m asking myself why am I giving advice to a person who actually is able to be hired without being called child labor????? I have no idea. Don’t attack me… I’ve got like, a centimeter of experience in love, but after reading and watching so many different kinds of “love” and all the like, I think I can grasp the general and basic idea. No matter how cliché it is. Actually, the more cliché it is, the more easier. So yeah. =_=
Apparently…. I’m rambling on, so take a few minutes to digest some of the things I’ve thrown at you. =_= and at myself. *ducks*
Has no idea what she just typed,
Akira
(Though she does want to see a pic of you and ‘S’…)
April 21, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Sleepy
hahahaha Funny rambling Akira! You remind me of one of my cousins!!
Starbucks?! A grande skim caramel latte, anyone? hahaha
I’m still in the process of planning the new blog – will keep you updated!
Oh and NO PICTURE! *BANNED* haha
April 22, 2009 at 3:02 am
Onyx Crescent
Aww… come on… really? No picture??? *pouts* =_= Though I can’t do it as well as some of my favorite characters… *squeals like a fangirl* Okay… I’m really off topic.
Well, then, keep me updated! I’ll be definitely waiting for an update! (And, of course, look forward to it.)
Gahh!! It’s hot over here, (where I am) but at least I have my computer working. I just need to wait for the next chapter of Girl Friends.
Well, off I go…. do hw.
=_=
-Akira xD
April 22, 2009 at 9:48 pm
Sleepy
hehehe I will send an update eventually! Wait PATIENTLY!!! =P
June 10, 2009 at 11:27 pm
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
ahahah why didnt i see this earlier..am i too late to give some advice?^__^
well in my opinion, gurl, lol… there is really somthing not so normal!!xD
oh cmon it isnt normal for a gurl to act that way with her so called bestfriend hahah
why did i say so?cause it happens to me way back 2004, I did exactly the way you do with her *reminiscing* ^___^
and about that grabbing hands, she does it me to me too whenever she see me and even hug me.. a gt froze also i mean its not usual doings of just “FRIENDS” i mean that’s too exagerate explanation to say that theyre just too sweet to you/everyone else..
Cmon guys, you know how normal friends should act!
And to you sleepy, I really have a strong feeling that you like her in a different love kind of thing.. cause gurl, its so obvious the way you describe your doings towards her xD
I wish you goodluck n that feeling, and hoping for a great result ^__^
im also looking forward for “just her and me” post xD
June 11, 2009 at 5:06 am
Onyx Crescent
Lol. “How normal friends act”? LOL. None of my friends are really normal. Hahaha. And it doesn’t matter because I like my only “normal” friend. Oh noes!! Did I just type that out? Crap…. oh wells. lol.
Sleepy, mind sharing with us some updates??? *evil bobcat grin*
MWHAHAHAH,
Akira
June 11, 2009 at 8:36 am
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
*death glare at akira* hmpf akira your so mean T_T
told you its so freaking hard for me to speak in english i’m a FILIPINO T_T
yeah i know my english is bad huhuhu xD
Well, i cant find any appropriate word to use for that “normal friends” stuff ~_~
i think akira you too should share some updates hahah ^_~ let it out gurl come on *big grin * xD
Neh, sleepy, what’s new? can we know the updates? ^____^V
June 11, 2009 at 9:17 am
Onyx Crescent
*hands up* (<- surrender STYLE, xD) Nah, didn't say nothin' bout your english. In fact, it's better than a few of us, ABC's. xD
Just laughing at "normal" because none of MY friends are really normal….. lolololol.. they're all crazy … like me. MWHAHA. Now there's a scary though. A bunch of crazy kids… led by me. YIKES.
-Akira
No updates!! Unless Sleepy shares first!
MWHAHAHHAAH. *evil look plastered on face*
June 11, 2009 at 10:41 pm
Sleepy
Maybe later!! No updates at this stage guys!! hahaha
June 12, 2009 at 12:06 am
Nerei
Lol, I joined in the conversation late too. Let me share my own story:
Well, I have a good friend with a relationship kinda like that too. The difference is, I didn’t bother hiding it. I was always telling my friends about her, to the point that all my friends know of her even if they’re not in the same school. I still remember when I first met her, I already wanted to know her better. I did a lot of things to get closer to her, like folding 1000 cranes and spending hundreds of $$ on her fav chocolate for her bdae, knitting her a scarf when she was going overseas, sending her flowers when she returned from being overseas, etc etc. I felt the happiest when we were together and I did a lot of things I’ve never done before, like waiting outside her place till midnight to give her the bdae presents, staying over at her place frequently (I swear, we were either doing project work or I was helping her to pack her room, nothing much), inviting her over to my place frequently as well. I even took cabs down to her place at 2am just to accompany her, we were so close that people would call my mobile asking for her, and my friends joked that I was going out with her. And even though we spend majority of the day together, I still call her at night to hear her voice. And oh, we do hug and hold hands at times.
Ultimately though, I think I still see it as friendship. If she had shown interest, we might probably end up furthering the relationship, but she had not. Thus, I was contend to leave it as friendship and not think too much about the matter.
June 12, 2009 at 12:16 am
Sleepy
Nerei, your story reminds me of my own. There are definitely some close resemblances. E.g. for S, I have been telling a lot of my other friends about her. I’m quite conscious so I just mention her as “my friend” and hope that people think I’m talking about multiple ppl instead of one (>_<) but my friends picked it up. Or I try to add another friend to my stories so it's not always just about S. I'm already thinking about what to get her for her birthday altho her bday is YONKS away!!! LOL I would never fold the cranes but I'll happily spend money on presents etc. Like you, I am happiest when spending my time with her.
I just want things to continue the way they are now. ^_^
June 12, 2009 at 1:21 am
Nerei
Now that I think about it, her name begins with ‘S’ too. Sure is some uncanny resemblance.
Yeah, whenever I talk to my friends these days and I say “This friend of mine xxx”, they’re almost all able to pick it up and say “That’s S right?” even if they don’t know her personally. -.-
Eek! Birthdays! So hard to plan for, esp now that she’s overseas. Ugh. Lucky hers just passed and I can relax for half a year more. I could suggest you cook a meal for her or something, but then again, it depends on what her likes/dislikes are. :-)
All the best to you if this turns out to be something more than just a friendship!
June 12, 2009 at 1:24 am
Nerei
And oh yeah, still can’t believe I actually took up knitting just to make that one scarf. (^_^)v
June 12, 2009 at 1:29 am
Sleepy
You’re crazy Nerei! Btw, my friend’s name does not actually start with S!!! HEHEHEHE I’m a little bit more creative than that!! Well I’m not really the cooking type so that would never cross my mind. Chances are that I’d just buy her something that she really likes. hahaha I’m happy to just stay as friendship – best of friends type. I feel that I care for her more than she does for me – but that’s ok. I’m happy just the way things are now.
Btw, knitting a scarf feels a bit too much for me. It’s way past the friendship line for me!!
June 12, 2009 at 1:50 am
Nerei
I know. I think that I was pretty crazy back then too (not only the scarf), but I think I grew more sensible now. It just felt all so natural back then.
June 12, 2009 at 9:37 am
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
haha let it out guys!xD yeah me too nerei it reminds me so much of my my own and have lots of resemblance except for that knitting stuff
Indeed, me too HAPPINESS is all I felt whenever Im with her and it seems that the tme was so fast that you cant imagine that you already spent like 12hrs with her O.o i can’t help smiling whenever I see her and oh haven’t mention it earlier, I do get jealous when I saw her with someone else too.
@Nerei haha although we’ve got some similarities there but I really swear! youre definitely crazy over her!lol xD i dont believe theres no other thing you felt for her other than friendship [well, sorry for contradicting you but as I see,n my own opinion it wasnt just a friendship or we just live in different country and have different culture when it comes to friends?O_o]
@ Sleepy oh cmon gurl spill it out T_T
@ AKira haha no, my english sucks to be honest with you guys I always gt my brain bleed whenever Im replying to some of posts here..swear!xD
thanks for your patience and trying so hard to understand my replies lol!no, gurl youre english is better than me ^_~
Oh no gurl, you cant do that to us T_T share some updates hmpf!xD
oh wait I nearly forgot, about that cooking kind of thing. I can still remember that way back then i used to cooked for her her favorite dish although im not so good with cooking. Its so weird thinking youre doing somethings for her youre not reallly doing to someone else and in your entire life
And for me, you really can do the most weirdest thing in the world for your SPECIAL SOMEONE to make her feel so special to you…=)
June 12, 2009 at 10:40 am
Nerei
Well, from a 3rd party’s pov, I guess it does look like I’m chasing her. -.- Should I even mention the craziest thing I did if the knitting incident already got pointed out so much?
But well, it’s friendship if I keep telling myself it’s friendship. Still, I was pretty confused as to my feelings when she once told me she’s going to get engaged to some guy she met for just a few days and tears immediately started flowing from my eyes. In the end, I told her (and myself) that I was probably just lonely that we won’t be spending so much time together.
Sigh, love/relationships are so troublesome, I’ll rather just read them in my yuri manga.
June 12, 2009 at 8:46 pm
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
See? you even shed a tears for her.. it wasnt just because she couldnt spend much more time with you like she used to.
Look gurl, Ive been through that I keep n telling myself that I cant fall for someone like her because generally, relationship is not accepted here in Philippines and I was pretty scared that I might lead our friendship to end or would make her hurt because I wasnt sure of my feelings for.
Its pretty weird that im sharing this story to all of you but I think this is the right time to give myself a freedom to say whatever I feel and show whats n my heart. SOunds corny but I felt so good for getting myself out of the shell [dunno the right term for that hoped you get what i mean T_T]
I hope this would make you realize what to do, to let it hide for the rest of your life w/o even letting her know how you really felt for her or have the guts to tell her how you really feel. If she dumbed you then so be it atleast you tried right? You may never know, and who knows she also feel the same to you
Try to give yourself time to think of some things and be ready for consenquences..=)
June 12, 2009 at 8:47 pm
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
oh I mean samesex relationship is not legally accepted here
June 12, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Nerei
What can I say? I’m in a state of self-denial, lol.
Tbh, I don’t think it was romance-love. Mine was a case of obsession.
June 12, 2009 at 10:18 pm
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
ahaha Yeah youre indenial state indeed xD
woaw isnt obsession is another way of saying ‘Yes im crazy about her?’lol
ocmon obsession is some what like romance/love ~_~
Obsession: http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/obsession
Hmm we do really have own perception in life but the way i see your situation i think its pretty obvious that it was 100% love-for-my-bEST?friend?
Is still my efforts are not enough? Should i excert more effort to make you confess your true feelings for her?xD
Natshiz to YURI FANS: Cmon guys cheer for me!xD Lets make Nerei confess her true feelings hahah
June 13, 2009 at 1:41 am
Onyx Crescent
Wow…. Nerei. In normal circumstances…. what you do for your S is wayyy beyond the friendship line. But think here…. is this what you do ONLY for S, or everyone else that is your friend?
————————————–
Anyways, I have a really good friend that I kinda have an infatuation for…. but anyways, I accidentally told her that I like her… (not just like, but what ppl call: “like like”.) Oh lol. She’s okay with it though. We’re still friends, except for the fact that she knows I like her. LOL.
Alright!!!! OUT!
Imma go play Audition with her now. xDDDD
-Akira
June 13, 2009 at 1:46 am
Nerei
erm, only her.
June 13, 2009 at 1:46 am
Sleepy
What did you actually say? What do you feel for this friend?? Haha Well it sounds good that she didn’t overreact and is remaining friends!!
June 13, 2009 at 4:12 am
Onyx Crescent
@Nerei: Well… then… you’ve gotta think about it seriously then!
@Sleepy: Haha, lol. It started out with me talking about it to her cousin. Her cousin was a bit shocked. But otherwise, just talked with me about it.
Then some things happened, and her cousin spilled it (accidentally, I hope… or else I have to hurt someone soon…lol. jk.) to her that I liked someone. From then, she was curious.
Please keep in mind that all this happened over a game. LOL. (to be specific, I was playing Maple Story at that time)
LOL!!
Well, we’re really good friends. But I don’t think we’ll go any further than best friends. EVER. lol!!
Though I made a promise that if I EVER had kids, she could have them. LOL. She doesn’t think she can have kids. (she’s got diabetes. *type 1* T_T)
I don’t want kids… anyways. lol.
But take in mind that we’re both only in Middle School right now.
OKAY. TOO MUCH INFO.
no more.
Thank you very much.
*bows*
LEAVES.
-AKIRA
June 13, 2009 at 9:56 am
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
Wew finally Akira hahah good job gurl ^_~ yeah i totaly agree with you. I really do believe that nerie’s doing was really beyond friendship.
@ Nerie come on gurl ^__^ let it out haha it feels good to be true to yourself believe me ^_~ anyways we, YURI FANS is aware of that kind of love..right gurls?xD
@ SLeepy so where’s the updates?hahha we deserve to hear updates regarding your story anyway this your love story right?YOure the one who supposed to share here
June 13, 2009 at 3:49 pm
Onyx Crescent
*bows*
Thank you, thank you!
I love you all, my dear audience! (<— LOL)
———————
@NatShiz: AGREED!!!
@Sleepy: Sleeeepppyyyy….. we're not really the star of the show…. so… what have you done this week? This month? THIS YEAR????
*sigh*
lol.
Out,
Akira
June 13, 2009 at 7:16 pm
Nerei
Lol. Sorry to disappoint you gals, but we’re in 2 different countries now and probably won’t end up in the same country again except for vacations.
June 14, 2009 at 1:36 am
Sleepy
That’s ok Nerei. Nothing can be perfect and I think the important thing is that you once had such a relationship with her. Such a bond is rare and some people go through life never experiencing a connection like this! Just make sure you remember those times and the feelings you had for her. Losing either would be a tragedy!
I like writing about S & I only because I want to capture the moment and remember what I felt at the time. At the same time, I don’t want to really post about it because I don’t want to risk her ever finding out. I think I would cry if someone was to take away my memories of our time together.
June 14, 2009 at 2:18 am
-l-`NatShiz`-l-
Yeah youve got point there sleepy but i think it felt so good if youre not hiding anything to her right but to risky to tell anyway because you might lose her for letting her know how you really feel for her.
@Nerie i just wish you both be happy together wether in bestfriends reltionship or romance..
@ Sleepy yeah its so much fun to think of happy memories with her you cant help smiling and prayed that you could dream about her and say whatever you wanted to say to her that you cant do inperson.
June 17, 2009 at 11:14 pm
E
Hi guys I am new to this thread because Natshiz got me into it, we’re actually chatting over Y!M right now, I’m so happy I have a fellow Filipino yuri fan over here :))
I find it funny that this blog has been posted SOOO long ago and yet here we are, 3 months later and still talking about “things-that-might-appear-crossing-the-friendship-line” (and we are so off-topic already, hey “S”, where have you gone? HAHAHA)
Anyway, my view on this is… those key points that Sleepy listed might be symptoms of “something different” and yet!!! …it might be just being overly friendly. I have a story to tell. :))
When I was in high school (it was a girls’ school, KYAAAA joke), I also had a friend I was SO close to. We were so close like she would call me at night sometimes, then she could not talk ’til past midnight because the owner (she lived in a boarding house) would get mad and I would say, “Let’s just put it down later!” and she would reply, “The owner would get mad, I really have to put this down you know!” and I would laughingly taunt her and say, “Oh, it’s okay! Actually I don’t want to put this down so she’d get mad at you WAHAHAHA” things like that. And we’d also text regularly, she’d go to my house and we’d watch a dvd and I would require her to write a reaction paper because she ate in my house :))
When I felt like watching Charlie & the Chocolate Factory she was the first one I thought of inviting and it was even my treat because she said she had no money. And there was one time when we had to meet and it was raining, then we were walking towards each other while holding our umbrellas and then I just said, “Wow, we are SO SWEET <3"
I'm telling this tale because even though I was like that and we sometimes find ourselves in the middle of a tickle-fest (WHAT THE HECK) and some people actually QUESTIONED WHAT WE WERE, I was never romantically involved with her… though she ended up falling for me even though I made her eat chicken EVERY TIME (she doesn't eat chicken because she saw a chicken being slaughtered once… I don't know, sometimes reverse psychology works here in the Philippines when it comes to LOVE HAHAHA)
I have another story but this would turn into a novel so maybe next time :))
So Sleepy I think depending on how you feel about it, it may or MAY NOT be "something more". When you think about it TOO MUCH (e.g. "why am I like this?" "why do I react like this when she does that?" "wah why does my heart jump?!", then maybe that's the time you should be thinking twice :P
June 18, 2009 at 7:32 am
Sleepy
Hi E – reading this line:
“when you think about it TOO MUCH…then maybe that’s the time you should be thinking twice”
I’m already nodding as I read it. I can think about S all the time. Things have changed slightly since I’ve written this post though. I no longer really ponder about the relationship that we have. But I do think about her a lot when I’m not seeing her. Like, what is she doing etc. I’m just taking it as good friends and we enjoy hanging out together. We see each other almost everyday and if we don’t see, there will at least by SMSs. I’m pretty happy right now!! There is probably something more from me but I won’t go off risking this friendship.
November 4, 2009 at 12:11 am
Anonymous
that post has freaked me out, i am the same with my best friend. I might be scaring her because i tell her when i see a pretty girl or something, she basically knows everything that pops into my head and me her.
but might i be giving the impression that i am crushing on her?
Oh dear, must be more careful, I don’t want to scare her.
I never worried before :S
November 4, 2009 at 3:18 am
Nakayo
Sorry Anonymous for putting some uncertainties into your head!! Well just treasure the friendship!! To have someone that you can be so open too is pretty lucky!!
November 7, 2009 at 12:14 am
Gwendoleen
I’m the same,before i met her i spent about £5 a month on credit now its £10 at least!
I tell her about the pretty girls i see and my latest yuri anime but maybe i should tone it down i dont want her to think i fancy her and be scared.
She thinks she is asexual, i remain celibate because up until now i have been afraid to get close to anyone :(
November 7, 2009 at 12:18 am
Gwendoleen
ignore and delete my last post im the one who post annonymous but i thought the post hadnt gone through
so i posted again.
How do you set up a blog here?
November 7, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Nakayo
Hi Gwendoleen! Do u mean you want to create your own wordpress blog? It’s easy! Just go to http://www.wordpress.com and sign up for an account! GOod luck!